Sunday, January 30, 2011

A Legacy of Love

There are times in our lives when we must say goodbye. It could be someone moving, someone you once loved separating ways, or saying goodbye to a loved one for the final time. As I have gone through life, I have had to say goodbye for the final time, many times.

Some of them I knew my whole life. Others I had never met. Some, I had the blessing of meeting a few times. Nonetheless, every single one of those lives meant the world to me. See, to me life is one of the most important things in this world. However, equally as important is how you spent your time in this world and what you leave behind.

In the recent months, I had the blessing to meet one of the most peaceful and beautiful souls I have ever met. Though I only got the chance to be in her presence twice, she became a very important person to me. Just getting to meet her was a true and wonderful gift.

I could be selfish and say something like, “it is not fair that she was taken so soon before I got to know her better.” In the end, that is not how I see it. Yes, as grieving can go, I went through some of these emotions. Of course, I would have loved to be around her and in her presence for years to come, but that simply was not to be. The moments I was given to be in her presence were some of the greatest gifts that I could ask for.

Through those around her, I felt I got to somewhat know her. She is a woman who was humble, kind, generous, and simply an amazing human being. She was a woman who was not one to say a negative word against anyone. She was a woman who loved her children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren. In just one evening, I experienced the beautiful light that she was and is. In just one evening, she was a woman who became someone who I will forever look to as an example of how to spread peace in this world. She was and is one of the strongest women that I ever had the honor of meeting. I say is, because if you personally know whom I am speaking of, you know that the glow of her presence passes through any boundaries that are present in this physical world.

I recently have gotten to hear some words spoken by someone very close to me. He spoke about her legacy. I know that her legacy will be the love and kindness that she left behind when she moved on to better places. I know that her legacy is in her children and grandchildren. I know this because I have gotten to feel the love of one of her grandchildren. Though different, it is yet the same love that she passed on to him. The gentleness, respect, kindness, and beauty that are a part of his soul are part of the same legacy. The peace that he brings to my life is also part of the peace that she gave to this world.

I know in my heart, that no matter what, I will pass on the peace and love that she gave to me in those few moments of being around her. I will always be honored that, someday, I will be blessed with helping to carry on her legacy. I know that, someday, I will be honored, beside the one I love, to instill her legacy that she passed on to her family in future generations. I will always be honored to have known her at all.

To some, she was known as Mary. To others, she was known as mother or Nana. To some she was a saint. To me, she is a guardian angel watching over all those that she loves. Yes, loves, not loved. She is and will be greatly missed in this world. But, more than that, she will be preciously remembered.

With that, I will leave you all with this. Always try to be a kind and peaceful presence in the lives of others. Always let those around you feel and know your love. Live every moment as it was the most precious. Hold tight to the good things in life and let the negatives go. Always try to leave the world in a better place than you found it. Because, though you may leave behind money or belongings, in the end, things do not really matter. It is your Legacy of Love that matters most. Much love to each of you. May your hearts always be full and your lives filled with love. May many moments of peace and blessings be a part of your lives.

With respect

Chieko Ross

Written by Chieko D. Ross on January 30, 2011 ©

Monday, January 17, 2011

On This Day

This day, the celebration of the life of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., will always be a day that I will celebrate. Dr. King is and always will be a hero of mine. I feel that if it was not for Dr. King (and many others along side him) and his fight for civil rights, I would not have many chances in this world that I have today. See, Dr. King is a person who fought for all people and our world. Yes, he fought for the rights of his people, but during all that, he was fighting for all. People of all races, not just one race. He wanted equality for all. And that is why he is one of my greatest heroes.

Dr. King, was a person who, from a young age, has helped to form the way I look at this world. I have not and never will be party in any form of discrimination. I will never be party to causing the oppression of another. I refuse to hate another. I refuse to cause another harm. My fight will always be peaceful and with respect for all. I will always fight for the rights of all people, no matter who they are. I will always fight for us, as a world, to be just that. We are all human and are all in the same boat in the end. I will always fight for peace, tolerance, and understanding between all people in our world. I will always fight for equality. When I say equality, I mean true equality. True equality is where all people are equal on all levels, no matter who they are, what they look like, no matter their gender or sexual orientation. I will always fight for a world where no one, not one single person, is below another. We are all equal, we are all human, we are one.

I will also say that I will always fight for the rights of animals and the protection of our environment. I feel that they all are a part of this life and are in the same boat . We, as a world, need to simply learn to take care of each other. We all need to protect each other. By protecting each other, we protect ourselves. I always hear people saying that war will always exist. That hate will always exist. Well, I stand here and say that I refuse to agree or believe any of this. As long as I breathe, I will always strive to live peacefully and help others to find that peace, both within themselves and with each other.

I feel that if it was not for those like Dr. King, I never have to choose which race that I want to be and I will never choose to be one or another. If anyone ever asks my race, I first will say I am human, period. I am never ashamed of any part of who I am. Yes, I am what one would call bi-racial, mixed, mulatto, or multiracial. In all honesty, none of that really means anything to me. It is just a label. The only label I will wear is human. I will always see the differences between us all as a thing of beauty. I will always celebrate our differences. I will never judge another because of our differences. I refuse to judge a person by what their skin tone is, what their sexual orientation is, what gender they are.

As I said before, I will never be party to the discrimination of anyone because of who they are. Because, if I did, I’d see it as discriminating against a brother, a sister, myself. What we do to one, we do to all. What actions we take affects the world, no matter how big or small. We all live in the same home, Mother Earth. We all breathe the same breath. We all drink from the same water. We all eat the same food. We all bleed the same blood. We are one.

My dream is much the same as that of Dr. King. As most of us know, he said, “"I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character." My personal hopes and dreams for this world is all peoples in this world will be able to walk freely, without hate, discrimination, and oppression always being at their backs. My dream is of a world where war is not the answer. My dream is that we will be able to drink straight from the streams again. My dream is that we will live in a world where genocide does not exist. My dream is of people freely and openly loving whomever it is that they love. My dream is that everyone in this world can walk down a street without have the fear of being harmed or killed. My dream is that people can dance under the sun and stars together. My dream is that our animal friends no longer get hurt, lose their homes, or lose their lives. My dream is equality, true equality. My dream is PEACE!

So I will end this by saying Thank You Dr. King. Thank you Ryan White. Thank You Rosa Parks. Thank You Mahatma Ghandi. Thank You Dr. Wayne Dyer. Thank You Dennis Banks. Thank You John Lennon. Thank You Mother Theresa. Thank You Dalai Lama. Thank You Peace Pilgrim. Thank You Bob Marley. Thank You Leonard Peltier. Thank you Maya Angelou. Thank You Emmanuel Jal. Thank You Robert Mirabal. Thank You Dian Fossey. Thank You Michael Jackson. Thank you Deepak Chopra. Thank You to the peacemakers, the peace creators, the peacekeepers. Thank you to all who fought for the right of others. Thank You to all who stood up when everyone else quit. Thank You to those you gave their lives. Thank You to all who dedicated and gave their lives for other people. And Thank You All for being you. I love you all to peaces.

Much love, one love.
Chieko Ross
Written by Chieko Ross on January 17, 2010 ©

Here are some beautiful quotes by beautiful people.
"We must protect the forests for our children, grandchildren and children yet to be born. We must protect the forests for those who can't speak for themselves such as the birds, animals, fish and trees." -Qwatsinas (Hereditary Chief Edward Moody), Nuxalk Nation
“Be the change you want to see in the world.” -Mahatma Gandhi
“I hope that people will finally come to realize that there is only one ‘race’ – the human race- and that we are all members of it. –Margaret Atwood
It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity there is beauty and there is strength. –Maya Angelou
The way of peace is the way of love. Love is the greatest power on earth. It conquers all things. --Peace Pilgrim
When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace. –Jimi Hendrix

Monday, January 10, 2011

The Building of My Family

First, before I say anything else, I want to say that I love my family to pieces. I will always do what I can for them and want them to know that they are always in my heart. I would never replace even one of them for anyone. No one can substitute them and without them, I would not be who I am.
Therefore, as I go on, I will say that I am one who has been very blessed to be able to grow my family. While, yes, there are new generations who I love dearly, I am talking about family that is not blood related.
Over the last year and half, I have been able to form a bond with people who I consider family as much as anyone else. I have new brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, and one I am starting to see as a daughter. As I look back, I can say that I do not know how I would have gotten to the point in life that I am without a single one of them. Each has helped me to realize that life is not this horrible, lonely existence.
Before I met some of my family extension, I felt different, alone, scared, depressed, and sad. I always had happiness, but it did not feel complete. As I came to more to know the social media world, I have found so many people to be inspirations, mentors, and beautiful lights in my everyday life. As a side note, I will say if used right, the internet and social media worlds can help to bring hope and peace to so many. It can help to bring people together who would otherwise not have ever been able to connect. Because of the connections I have made, I have realized within myself that I did not allow myself to have complete happiness. Through these connections, I have been able to let down walls that I built up from past hurts.
So I will write about how it all started for me. I have always been one to support peace, love, equality, and kindness. This extends to the artists that I listen to and support. If you know me well, you will know that music is something that is very important to me. I decided to join a social media site to follow the artist who I felt the glow of peace through his music, words, caring and support of others. Occasionally, I would post quotes about different aspects of life and how if we come together we can make the world a better place. However, I often found that I felt no one was caring. I decided to stop and simply login for updates on artists that I followed. After awhile, I began to try again wanting to bring a little more peace to the world by posting some of my thoughts on our world issues and by posting quotes to inspire and make people think.
One day, I finally thought I had enough and wanted to quit the site, but in boredom clicked on one of the links. This was the best link that I had ever hit. It was something that brought me peace in the form of laughter. A link would eventually lead me to someone who I now consider my sister. I hope she knows what a blessing she has been to me over the last year and a half. I do not need to mention this because she knows who she is.
From this point on, I have been so lucky to encounter so many others who have become my family. I have a sister who is there, supporting and encouraging me at each turn. I have an uncle to who I can look up. I have a strong brother who is like a rock in this world. I have another sister who is such a sweetheart. I have yet another sister who has helped me to find my inner strength and learn to love myself as I am. I now have a person who is a beautiful light in the form of a daughter. I have so many more that I could call cousins. I now have someone who I love so dearly that I want to spend the rest of my life and beyond with. I am so blessed that each of these people care about each other, our world, and what is happening to it.
Some of them have been blessings in the form of tough love, others by supporting, and yet others by making me laugh. All have brought so much love and joy into my life. I hope I have been even a tenth to each of them what they have given me in life.
With this, I will say that you never have to meet a person face to face to become close to another. You never have to meet face to face to love others. I love each of these people as much as I do those who with who I grew up. I have been so lucky to meet a few of them and hope someday to get to meet the rest. Until then I want them all to know that that they each have a special place in my heart and in my life. To each of them, I want to say thank you for shining their beautiful light on my life. To each of them I proudly and unashamedly say I love you.
It does not matter what color of skin you have, what culture you are, or gender. All that matters is the love we share in this world. Whether a person likes it or not, we are one big family. What actions we take affect all. As one big family, we should always respect, support, and show kindness to one another and all living creatures.
With that said, I will sign off by saying to anyone who reads this: I love each one of you to peaces. You are a brother or sister by simply existing. You are all beautiful. Thank you so much for being who you are, being inspirations, and light givers. May you each have joy in your every day, light shining on your paths, and love in each of your hearts. Much love, one love always.
Chieko D. Ross

By Chieko Ross written on 1/10/2011 ©

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Where Do We Draw The Line?

As any of you know, if you know me at all, I am one who will fight for the rights of all living creatures on this Earth. This means the rights of humans, animals, and all of nature. In addition, when it comes to animals in general, you know that my belief in the level of animal rights should be the same as those of us who walk on two feet.
I have seen too often the footage of animals that have been abused and neglected, these abuses including animal testing and fighting. One animal alone, as with any other living creature, is one too many being harmed. I have seen first hand the results of abuses that animals endure. That is why I feel as strongly about this subject as I do.
Therefore, with this, you know I support the organizations that help protect animals from abuse and those bringing some kind of relief to animals that have been mistreated. I am all for the ads, campaigns, and political activism that helps to promote the rights of animals and their protection. Yes, some of the commercials can be hard to watch, seeing the results of all this abuse and neglect. I do believe this knowledge can help to bring about better rights for animals. Nevertheless, where is it we draw the line?
Today, after returning home from work, I walked in to see my mother crying. Like my mother, the pain of any creature easily affects me. Therefore, of course, I asked what was wrong. At the moment, it was scenes from a heartfelt movie. As I was talking to her, I look over at our television to see that a commercial for animal rights was on. As usual, my mom reached for the remote to temporarily change the station until the commercial was over. These commercials cause her great distress. However, we do believe that people need to know what is happening to animals, we have just seen them many times before. We know what is happening to animals in our world. However, today, when she reached for the remote, it was not where she left it, so I saw more of the commercials than usual. As I always do, I watch them knowing what it typically coming.
The commercial was one that of course showed images of dog fighting, animal neglect, and horrific scenes of abuse. Of course, I was sickened, upset, and horrified by what I saw.
But, this commercial was more than the usual type seen during the rest of the year. It was a Christmas commercial. It is not the fact that it was a Christmas commercial that bothered me. It was the fact that it was portraying a very young child writing a letter to Santa, pleading for all the animal abuse to stop. Yes, animal abuse without a doubt needs to cease, but I feel a severe line was crossed when they had a child writing letters in these scenes and doing voice overtones of him thinking while writing his letter.
Where do we draw the line? I deeply feel that the group promoting animal rights by having a child “write” this letter to Santa is utterly wrong. I feel that by doing this, one wrong is committed to try to stop another wrong. As the well-known saying goes, two wrongs do not make a right. Even if this child had written a letter in his own life, pleading for the cessation of animal abuse, he should not have been subjected to doing so again. It breaks my heart to think of a child at all having to witness anything having to do with abuse, whether it is in his own life or for this situation.
I have run this through my head quite a few time already and still cannot find how it was right in anyway for this to have been done. Though I am not saying dogs and humans are the same (though I do not believe one is lower than the other is), let me make one quick comparison. To me, a child writing this letter about the horrific abuses to animals is like having a baby animal perform for the rights of children. It is wrong….period. If you know me, I love and care about every living creature. They all have a place in my heart. By harming one for the rights of another…well,…this is where the line has been severely crossed. A child should not be subjected to any horrific scene of any kind.
I know some people will say that the child was not wronged in any way, but in the deepest parts of my heart and mind, I cannot find one single reason to see this situation in that light. Even if the child can handle such a situation, I still will not see it as right. Moreover, to think if a child has seen these horrific scenes in the first place. On top of that, how is it going to affect one child to see another child writing such a letter? As I have seen too many times, people do not always realize what their children are watching.
My heart is absolutely broken by any type of abuse. I am angered by the wrongs that any person, animal, or any other living creature has to endure. To see a child put in such a situation is one that, though it may not be on the same level of wrongdoing, I am still utterly appalled and saddened by this situation.
I am all for children experiencing life and all that wonders that this world has. I want the same for all beings and animals. However, I am not or ever will be for a child being subjected to a situation that may have a negative impact on them in any way. What I cannot fathom is how this situation was thought of with any kind of consciousness at all.
Therefore, after it all, I will say, yes, continue to support causes that help and protect any part of nature. This type of support is definitely needed. That said, I hope that we as humans, can become more conscious of actions we are taking in this world. We already have too many negatives by the means of violence, hatred, and other things that lead us away from peace. We already have a hard enough time trying to bring our world to a peaceful place without adding other levels of pain and distress to it all.
By Chieko D. Ross on 12/5/2010 ©

Thursday, October 7, 2010


I am utterly sickened, saddened and heartbroken over recent events involving Tyler Clementi. Clementi was a young student at the age of 18. From the little bit that I have seen, he was a young soul who was getting ready to step out in life and take his place in this world. And because of the actions of a couple others, Tyler decided to take his life. Because of their actions to humiliate him, for reasons that only they know, a young man’s life is now gone.
I will not go into any specifics on the happening around this story. However, I will say this, because of Tyler’s lifestyle, who he was, two people decided to take horrific and devastating actions against him, for their own benefit. It is wrong! There is no other way to say it.
And I am in no way trying to take away from the loss of Tyler’s life by saying what I am about to say. What is going on to so many is going on in our world in so many different forms. Another one of these examples of taking negative actions is with a church, who have taken it upon themselves to make examples of fallen soldiers. They have decided to protest at the funerals of these men who have lost their lives in war. They are causing pain to others because of their own beliefs. They are protesting while family and friends are grieving for the loss of a loved one. Because of this church, others are having to deal with so much more. They are having to go through extra pain because of these people. This is a severe form of disrespect. It is absolutely horrible what they are doing. To me, this ties in with the story of Tyler. I could go on and on with giving examples. They are out there. You can find this info. I encourage you to do so to know what is going on in our world.
I can not fathom what is takes for someone to take an action towards another that will in any way harm another person, animal or our world. I cannot understand why someone would want to do so in the first place. It sickens me to know that there are people in this world who CHOOSE to hurt another for their own purposes, whether those reasons be entertainment, cruelty, or to make a point in favor of their own beliefs. In the end, these are simply different levels of bullying. It is not anyone’s place to try to force others to view the world with their own eyes. If you have the right to openly believe in whatever it is that you do, so does everyone else. And while it is a blessing to have our rights, we also must know that with these rights, comes responsibilities. Especially, the responsibility of knowing when and how to use these rights. We must realize that we are only causing more pain, more sadness, and more negativity in this world when we harm others in any way. . We must realize that through our negative actions we are taking the world one step further away from peace.
There are too many negative actions going on in this world that are affecting others in pain, devestation, oppression, etc. It has got to stop! Period. If you are a person who is purposely hurting others for your own benefit, at the least, SHAME ON YOU!!! Think about what it is that you are doing to others. Put yourselves in their shoes. Think of how someone might try to hurt you and make an example of you simply because of who you are. And think about this. If you are able to do these horrible and tragic things to others, it can be done to you. I know you would not want anything bad to happen to you or anyone you care about and love. So don’t do it to another. You do not just affect one person when you take this action, you hurt so so many more. There are friends and family and many others who surround this person you are hurting. You are affecting them. And in the long run, you are also affecting yourself. Because what we do, as one person, also affects our entire world and all that dwell here. And if you are thinking about taking a negative action towards others, refocus your energies and choose a different path. Choose a path of compassion. One of peace. One of light. One of hope. One of love.
And to me, what is worse than anything else is the fact that so many just stand aside, watching, doing nothing, as people are being hurt. This is something that I cannot and will not do. I will not be silent. Yes, I am not out there protesting, but I am taking a stand against these forms of hate that are happening. Think about it people. If this is being allowed to happen and nothing is being done about it, it will just continue on. It will allow these cycles of hate, oppression, racism, cruelty and sadness to continue on. Stand up and break the cycle. I understand that this is a scary thing to do. But if we as a people do not stand up against what is being done to us and others, the end results are much worse than scary. I use to be afraid to speak up at this level myself. But in the process of learning to be more vocal about the rights of everyone and everything, I learned that I am also speaking up for my own rights in the process. In the end, we all benefit. We all will have at least that much more peace.
I wish to end this on a more positive note by way of showing support. For those who have been on the tragic end of the negative actions of others, know that you are not alone. Know that you have support out there. Know that you are beautiful as you are. Know that you have a right to be who you are. Do not let others actions bring you down. Don’t let them darken your doorstep or put out your light. Keep that light going and let it shine for all the world to see. If you do let others get the worst of you, you let them win. Stand up proudly, raise your head high, and say I am here and I am me and I am proud. Take your place in this world and know that you have a right to it. And in the end, if you are reading this, know that someone cares and that you are loved. Yes I said loved. By me. I may not know you. I may not ever meet you. But, because you are a part of this world, I have unconditional love for you. I am not ashamed to say so, as you should never be ashamed of being a wonderful person you are. Stay strong! Be you! Be proud. And share your light and beauty with others. It will only help bring about paths for peace and love. Through this sharing, you give hope and love to others. And you will receive this same hope and love.
I will leave it at this.
Peace always,
Chieko Ross

P.S. if you have a problem with anything that i say here, say it to me and no one else.
written by Chieko Ross 10/7/2010 ©

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Untitled Poem---unofficially 2 now 1 dont really like that name

This was inspired by many things i have seen (such as weddings, friends going through things, hopes) and or have felt and gone through and is written in more of a dream perspective ... this is still in its rough form... but i was inspired to share... so here it is... as is no title... work in progress (such as the to life not denied line) ... hope it makes sense

Both in wonder
As alone they stride
One step closer
To life not denied

Two hearts mold
With beauty of love
That beauty is that
Of graceful dove

Two souls merge
To become one
Under sacred trees
Blessed by sun

Hands enfold in
Soft embrace
Never to part
Through time and space

When lips meet
With dewy bliss
Love is sealed
By a simple kiss

Peace fills entire
Body and soul
This love, this union
Is abounding, is whole

They look into eyes
As lips part
And see future
As one heart

Two hearts now
Know this is home
Never to part
Until rest under loam

I hope you can see
My humble home
Please oh please
Bring me home

written on 10/27/09 by Chieko Ross ©

Monday, September 6, 2010

On children and punishment

What kind of place have we come to in our world where we must beat and scream at our children to get them to listen. Too many times have I been walking somewhere I public and have seen people doing just this. And too many times have I been silent about it. I am not talking about a swat on the butt or a spanking. I am talking about literally taking a swing at your child’s head or hitting them so hard that it is going to leave a welt or bruise on their body. Shaking them so hard that their head and limbs are flying all over the place. Don’t you realized that this can leave permanent damage to their bodies?
I see people literally leaned over into their child’s face just screaming at the top of their lungs at them. Other times it is them telling them to stop their crying… especially when they were the ones who made them cry in the first place. Slapping their children across the face because they’ve said no. I’ve listened to mothers hitting the hell out of their children in public bathrooms. Father's dragging children out of bathrooms with tears streaming down their faces.(Yes, i know some kids just cry like this.)I’ve seen too many people threatening their children. Such as, if you don’t quit, I’ll beat the hell out of you. Do we really need to make our children fear us? Telling them to get out of our faces or to shut up. What good is that going to do? The worse part is seeing children repeating these actions with other children. Can you not find a more gentle way to get them to listen. Can you not take the time to help them redirect their energy? It’s too much and it needs to stop. My god people, these are our children, not objects to take our frustrations out on.
What ever happened to time outs or taking the time to sit down and talk about their actions. Listen to your children, there is usually a reason why they are acting out in the way they do. They have a voice that needs to be heard too. That’s all I’m saying people. Simply take a breath, take a second, count to ten, try to calm yourself before you yourself take any action.
In more recent times I have become more vocal when I see these things. There are times when I will say something like, “is that really necessary”. Yes, I myself will get a glare or be yelled at. But do I really care, no. And yes, I know I am not a mother myself, but I have worked with children before. I know there are other less violent ways to get children to take better actions. And I know if I ever get the chance in life to be blessed with children of my own, I will raise them with gentleness.
And maybe this will help to lessen the amount of violence in our world.

By Chieko Ross ©